Post by Aimée on Sept 19, 2005 17:30:33 GMT -5
[glow=black,5,300]Birth Order Characteristics[/glow]
Psychological birth order is more important than chronological birth order!
THE ONLY CHILD: Develops these characteristics from having to cope with playing alone and or having to fend off adult intrusions
1. Characteristics Bad Feeling: Frustration
2. Typical Stragedy For Survival: Imaginary items, companions.
.....Speeds: Very fast or very slow
3. Justice: Everyone should be treated equally
4. T-Shirt Reads: "Leave me ALONE, I'd rather do it MYSELF"
5. Nature Humor: Sarcasm
6. Child Within: Smothered
7. Procrastination: Put off big task; complete little jobs and tasks well
8. Strengths: Organizing and stability
9. Parenting: Allow children time and space; too much at times
10. Marriage: Tries to meet partner's expectations
THE FIRST BORN: Only child until second takes away mom's/dad's attention. Often feels that there is no love for them.
1. Characteristics Bad Feeling: Guilt; want to get rid of child 2
2. Typical Stragedy For Survival: Placating and covering up
3. Justice: People should get what they deserve
4. T-Shirt Reads: "I don't know, what do you think?"
5. Nature Humor: Teasing
6. Child Within: Abandoned
7. Procrastination: Dreams instead of doing/working
8. Strengths: Goal setting, compramise, leadership
9. Parenting: Directs children towards goals
10. Marriage: Typical goes along with that their partner wants, not to "rock the boar" unless partner wants, go against their fundamental beliefs/principles
SECOND BORN: Loses attention as first born aggresively takes it away. Leaving second child as if they cannot do anything well enough to merit attention.
1. Characteristics Bad Feeling: Inadequecy
2. Typical Stragedy For Survival: Perfectionism, logic, reason
3. Justice: Necessity of life
4. T-Shirt Reads: "That won't work, it's not good enough"
5. Nature Humor: Dry, sometimes cutting
6. Child Within: Neglected
7. Procrastination: Puts tasks off usually till they can be done perfectly
8. Strengths: Self discipline, honesty, determination
9. Parenting: Insists on obedience to rules
10. Marriage: Typically puts spouse and family before/ahead of self
THIRD BORN: Feels vulnerable. People can get to them.
1. Characteristics Bad Feeling: Vulnerability
2. Typical Stragedy For Survival: Being strong, attacking
3. Justice: There is no justice, victims must be rescued
4. T-Shirt Reads: "No problem, it doesn't bother me any more"
5. Nature Humor: Put downs
6. Child Within: Wounded; hurt
7. Procrastination: Puts off tasks to persue more interesting things
8. Strengths: Compassion, practical, creative
9. Parenting: Protective, nurturing, may over do; over protect
10. Marriage: Whants to p;ease spouse and children
FOURTH BORN: Third tries to pass on vulnerability; fourth may not mature enough to play with older children; leaving 4th feeling immature/unwanted
1. Characteristics Bad Feeling: Anger; upset
2. Typical Stragedy For Survival: Not listening to self; work hard
3. Justice: There is no justice, you can only get even
4. T-Shirt Reads: "Life isn't easy, you have to try harder"
5. Nature Humor: Insults
6. Child Within: Isolated/Alone
7. Procrastination: Puts things off to think about possible romifications
8. Strengths: Thinking, understanding, hard worker
9. Parenting: A buddy to their children
10. Marriage: Good provider
Psychological birth order is more important than chronological birth order!
THE ONLY CHILD: Develops these characteristics from having to cope with playing alone and or having to fend off adult intrusions
1. Characteristics Bad Feeling: Frustration
2. Typical Stragedy For Survival: Imaginary items, companions.
.....Speeds: Very fast or very slow
3. Justice: Everyone should be treated equally
4. T-Shirt Reads: "Leave me ALONE, I'd rather do it MYSELF"
5. Nature Humor: Sarcasm
6. Child Within: Smothered
7. Procrastination: Put off big task; complete little jobs and tasks well
8. Strengths: Organizing and stability
9. Parenting: Allow children time and space; too much at times
10. Marriage: Tries to meet partner's expectations
THE FIRST BORN: Only child until second takes away mom's/dad's attention. Often feels that there is no love for them.
1. Characteristics Bad Feeling: Guilt; want to get rid of child 2
2. Typical Stragedy For Survival: Placating and covering up
3. Justice: People should get what they deserve
4. T-Shirt Reads: "I don't know, what do you think?"
5. Nature Humor: Teasing
6. Child Within: Abandoned
7. Procrastination: Dreams instead of doing/working
8. Strengths: Goal setting, compramise, leadership
9. Parenting: Directs children towards goals
10. Marriage: Typical goes along with that their partner wants, not to "rock the boar" unless partner wants, go against their fundamental beliefs/principles
SECOND BORN: Loses attention as first born aggresively takes it away. Leaving second child as if they cannot do anything well enough to merit attention.
1. Characteristics Bad Feeling: Inadequecy
2. Typical Stragedy For Survival: Perfectionism, logic, reason
3. Justice: Necessity of life
4. T-Shirt Reads: "That won't work, it's not good enough"
5. Nature Humor: Dry, sometimes cutting
6. Child Within: Neglected
7. Procrastination: Puts tasks off usually till they can be done perfectly
8. Strengths: Self discipline, honesty, determination
9. Parenting: Insists on obedience to rules
10. Marriage: Typically puts spouse and family before/ahead of self
THIRD BORN: Feels vulnerable. People can get to them.
1. Characteristics Bad Feeling: Vulnerability
2. Typical Stragedy For Survival: Being strong, attacking
3. Justice: There is no justice, victims must be rescued
4. T-Shirt Reads: "No problem, it doesn't bother me any more"
5. Nature Humor: Put downs
6. Child Within: Wounded; hurt
7. Procrastination: Puts off tasks to persue more interesting things
8. Strengths: Compassion, practical, creative
9. Parenting: Protective, nurturing, may over do; over protect
10. Marriage: Whants to p;ease spouse and children
FOURTH BORN: Third tries to pass on vulnerability; fourth may not mature enough to play with older children; leaving 4th feeling immature/unwanted
1. Characteristics Bad Feeling: Anger; upset
2. Typical Stragedy For Survival: Not listening to self; work hard
3. Justice: There is no justice, you can only get even
4. T-Shirt Reads: "Life isn't easy, you have to try harder"
5. Nature Humor: Insults
6. Child Within: Isolated/Alone
7. Procrastination: Puts things off to think about possible romifications
8. Strengths: Thinking, understanding, hard worker
9. Parenting: A buddy to their children
10. Marriage: Good provider